Are you playing the same tape in your head?

You know... that tape inside your head that won’t stop?!


  • Am I going to be stuck, depressed and alone forever?

  • Ugh, I’m so not motivated to do anything.

  • There’s gotta be a better way.

  • Why am I so needy and fear rejection so much?

  • I really should talk to someone about what happened.

  • My childhood is over, it’s done, why am I still living there?

  • I’ve lost it! I’m truly crazy and should be ashamed of myself.

  • Why am I angry all the time?

  • My kids! They deserve a healthy and stable mom.

  • I’m divorced, have no friends and no one I can trust.

  • My anxiety is hindering me so much, I’m afraid to move forward in life.

  • How long am I going to berate myself for my inability to ‘forgive and forget,’ live in the present and just ‘get over’ the traumas that occurred so long ago?

I Know, I've been there!


You aren’t crazy, bad, weak, lazy or inherently defective, nor are you a whiner who doesn’t want to let go of the past.  You’re simply a woman who have been grievously psychologically injured and it’s not your fault.

Having a reaction to trauma in NORMAL.  Just like it’s normal to bleed after being cut, swell after a mosquito bite and cry after losing someone you love.

  It’s also NORMAL to get psychological help when you need it.  Just like you would if you got into a car accident.  A trauma is a trauma no matter what part of you it happened to.


The traumatic event may have happened in the distant past, but the injury it caused you is still PRESENT.  And yet, you can still heal from it.


Having post-traumatic stress is painful and debilitation enough, without being SHAMED for being the way you are, let alone SHAMING yourself for it.


You’re NOT alone.


Remember that being neglected/abandoned as a child can be as damaging or more than physical abuse.


Any kind of trauma gets in the way of you having the best relationship you can have first with yourself and being the best woman you can be.



Know that even the most severely shattered psyche can heal.

I can’t begin to express the deep transformation that occurred in every aspect of my life

Rebecca Night

The latest from my PODCAST 

Tips For Calming Your Anxiety Quickly

Jul 17, 2020

Guided Meditation For Overcoming Your Anxiety

Jul 17, 2020

The Querida MarĂ­ Podcast

Apr 15, 2022