Do This Before You Open Next Year

Do This Before You Open Next Year

Here you are again! 

It’s the end of another year and the cusp of another new.  What are you going to do to close this year before you open next year? 

What?! Huh?!!

Close?!  Open?!  Say what?!

Yes!  It’s always a nice practice to close one year before you open the other.  Think of it this way, just like you ask your kids to put away the old toy before they open the new toy to play with, here you’re going to do the same.  What happens when your kid has opened toy after toy after toy Christmas morning?  The house ends up a mess!  Well, same here.  When you open year after year without closing the year prior, you end up with a mess, a mixed of things all over the place.

The following tips will help you to

10 Teas You Can Use to Find Relief from Your Anxiety

10 Teas You Can Use to Find Relief from Your Anxiety

I was having a conversation with one of my clients last week about teas.  Specifically, teas that relief anxiety symptoms.  Remember to consult your doctor before ingesting anything that may help you.  😊 Also, remember that I’m not a doctor and I’m not suggesting nor recommending anything.  I’m just sharing information that may help.

 Some people have taken Benadryl to help them sleep but they wake up tired and sluggish.  Tea works to help you relax and sleep well without the sluggish side effects.  And it’s a food!

 Tea is truly calming and relaxing.

Tea can help you, your mind and muscles relax along with a short five-minute meditation.  You can also grab a cup of your tea, read a bit of your book and let your mattress support you.

You can also dip your finger in your favorite essential oil blend and massage your temples. These practices can truly help with severe and chronic anxiety.  

 Always do your own research, just because it’s food, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t come with side effects.  Think dairy, gluten and corn just to name a few. 

How to Jump Start Your Marriage or Partnership

How to Jump Start Your Marriage or Partnership

Imagine have the perfect marriage, or at least imagine having a marriage where things run smoothly, or how about imagine a partnership that resembles a friendship. 

Think about your relationship with your best friend.  How often do you fight? If you do, what are your fights usually about?  Do you just let the friendship fizzle away? Or, do you sit or get on the phone with your girlfriend and tell her that what she did and said Friday night at the club was fucked up?!

Do you see the similarities?

Yes, I know!  You don’t share bills and household chores with your girlfriend, you’re not married to your girlfriend, but you’re married to your spouse or partner. 

Let’s say you get into an argument or disagreement with your friend, are you going to divorce them?  No, you’re not, same with your spouse.  Unless your friend is douchy and deserves to be cut off.

How Talking About Your Goals Helps You Manifest Them

How Talking About Your Goals Helps You Manifest Them

You may want to get in the habit of counting your wins.  I know that as kids we learned not to brag.  Especially us women.  “It’s not nice, not lady like.”  Well, I’m here to tell you it’s time to unlearn that.  It’s time to share your wins and scream “Hell yeah!”

This exact thing is what we’re doing in our meditation group every month, we count our wins and share them with pride.  We encourage and support each other to take the next step!  Oh, and we clap for each other too 😊

Why count your wins?  First, because you can.  Second, it creates momentum in your life.  The more you talk about your wins the smaller the other stuff becomes.   The more you talk about your wins, they become real, and the energy multiplies.  It feels good.  And you inspire the people that are watching you.  Some may talk snot about you behind your back, but that’s because they’re so freakin’ jelly and they want to do what you’re doing. Let them talk, they’re helping you manifest your goals.

You, Your Mood and The Law of Vibration

You, Your Mood and The Law of Vibration

Have you been in one of those moods that no matter how much you try to shake it off and kick it away you just can’t?  The more you try to get rid of it, the stickier it gets!! Isn’t it terrible?!

As you may know, I’ve been holding meditation groups monthly and during these meditation groups I’ve been focusing on the universal laws, especially the law of attraction.  The universal laws apply to all at any given time.

One of the universal laws is the law of oneness.  This law states that everything is connected to a great whole we sometimes call God, Source, Spirit, or Universe.  I’ve also heard this oneness be referred to by many as ‘Something out there that’s bigger than me.’

Here’s the thing, it’s not out there.  It’s in here, inside you and inside me.  You are part of the greater whole, part of God, Source, Spirit and the Universe.  You are not separate from anything.  You are part of everything.

Everything that you can see, feel and sense is universal energy.

Positive vs Negative Energy – Which One Is Easier to Manifest into Your Life?

Positive vs Negative Energy – Which One Is Easier to Manifest into Your Life?

It’s true.  Haven’t you heard people say things like…

Well, that would happen to me! Referring to something horrible or ‘With my luck, I’ll get hit by a train’ or ‘Knowing me, of course I’ll lose all my money’.  All these examples are all in these people’s future.  All of them haven’t happened.  They may not even have had these negative experiences, but they will because they said it will and the universal law, the law attraction is always at play.  They don’t need to take any action at all.  Negative energy is swimming freely, effortlessly to them and they don’t even know the power they have to shift their world around!

It’s safe to say that manifesting negative energy into your life is easier.  It’s easier because it only requires you to say or even think of negativity and it comes to you. 

Positive energy on the other hand at the least needs to be thought, said aloud if you wish and it requires action.  The action part is what stumps some people.  One must act as if it, I’m virtually circling it because it is whatever it is you want to manifest, has come to pass.

What You Don't Want Leads You to What You DO Want

What You Don't Want Leads You to What You DO Want

What do you want?  What do you want your life to be like in the next six months?  You don’t like how your situation is at this moment, what are you willing to do to change it?  These are just a few questions I ask when I’m in session with a client.  What’s your goal?  These questions can be overwhelming to some people and exciting to others.  It all depends on each person’s personality. 

Let’s do this exercise!

·       Take a piece of paper and fold it in half long side

·       On the top of the left side write down ‘Things, people and situations I don’t want in my life anymore ever again, POOF Gone!.’

·       On the right side of the paper write down ‘Things, people and experiences I want more of.’

Take your time writing these things down.  Some things will pop in your head really fast and other thoughts will come to you as the days go by.  Our goals change as we change.  Remember nothing is permanent and energy shifts like the ocean.

Now take a good look at your list, which side is longer and which side is shorter?  There’s no good or bad nor right or wrong answers here.  It simply is what it is. 

From my experience working with people, the ‘I don’t want side’ is usually a mile long!  Which is awesome because you’re purging what you don’t want out.  The ‘I want more of’ side is usually shorter.  That’s good too because you’ll be clear as to what you DO want.  It’s good at times to not have so many options of what you want because what people tend to do is focus on one thing, then the other, then the other and end up manifesting nothing because their energy is always shifting. 

Use Your Imagination to Expand Your Inner World

Use Your Imagination to Expand Your Inner World

When I hold meditation groups or when I teach someone how to meditate, one question I get asked the most is, am I making this up?

Quick answer, yes and no!

You see, you’re making it up, you’re imagining it and you’re creating it.  All at the same time!  Yes, you’re making it up but not really.  When you’re being guided during a meditation, the leader usually leads you to a place of relaxation, there you get to imagine, create all in your head and feel that creation in your body as well.  The amazing thing is that sometimes, you can imagine a place that you’ve never seen in your mind’s eye before and leave you in a state of bliss.  Your whole body is sensing the new experience.

With Shamanic Journeying, the meditation process is different (with me).  When I guide you to a place inside of you for you to explore, once I get you there, I continue to expand on it so that you can see more, feel more and experience more. 

Why You Need to Practice Shamanic Journeying

Why You Need to Practice Shamanic Journeying

What is Shamanism?  How can it help me?  Is it evil?  Is it a religion?  How can it hurt me?  These are some of many questions I’ve received throughout my career as a psychotherapist.  To put it simply, in my opinion Shamanism is about you learning more about you via spiritual practices that only you can create for yourself meaning, you are your own creator of your own experience. 

What do I mean by you being your own creator?  Let me explain what Shamanism is and then I’ll get back to you as a creator.

Shamanism is a spiritual practice where the Shaman, a healer for her or his community travels, known as journeying into the deep realms of the spirit world, retrieves information from their spirit guides in conjunction with power animals and brings this new-found knowledge to the seeker.  Shamans also work with their ancestors, gods and goddesses of their culture. 

A Date for Every Week of the Year

A Date for Every Week of the Year

How many times have you sat down with your partner and asked yourselves ‘Soooo what do you want to do tonight?  Where do you want to go?  Or, been on vacation and wondered what to do next?

This is an issue I see a lot with my clients when they’re in the process of increasing their intimacy in their relationship.  They run out of ideas and at times forget how to get to know each as they grow as individuals and as a couple.

One of the couples I work with came up with the following idea… I’m sure you’ve heard of the ‘gratitude jar’ where you write down what you’re grateful for that day and put it in the jar.  Well, they have a ‘date box’.  They got together during a date night, wrote down thirty things they want to do on separate pieces of paper, decorated a box and put the pieces of paper in the box.  The goal is to pick a piece of paper and do what it says that night so there’s no more wondering what to do on Friday or Saturday nights!  Cool huh!

What Did You Come Here to Do?

What Did You Come Here to Do?

You have no idea how many times a client has asked me to help them figure out their life’s purpose. 

The thing is, I ask myself the same question all the time.  Even though I’ve helped thousands of people in my life as a respiratory therapist and psychotherapist, I still ask myself, how can I be of service? What else can I be doing for the greater good?   

Trust.

That’s this week’s and final topic from The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav.  Trust that what you’re doing is helping you take one step closer into fulfilling and living your purpose. 

Why We Need to Find Our Power Within Our ‘Parts Unknown”

Why We Need to Find Our Power Within Our ‘Parts Unknown”

Anthony Bourdain, wow! 

His suicide hit me hard.  I knew he battled with depression, drugs you know, dark shadowy parts of the self.  You have them, I have them.  Am I surprised that he completed his suicide, no.  Do I wish his most powerful self-had won the internal battle? Yes! 

It’s hard at times when you have those negative thoughts, I get it.

One negative thought follows another and another, meanwhile you’re losing your power to a much lesser energy.

There are times when clients come to me torn between making two decisions.  They then realize that there’s always more to choose from.  Let me explain.

Teresa (not real name) came to me torn between choosing her future self and the self that she’s currently living.  Teresa saw her future self as a confident, secure, married to an honorable husband, children, connected to herself spiritually and in life.  She sees her current self as shameful for things she has done and not done, insecure, not connected to herself nor her spirituality, and painfully single.

Your Soul's Psychology, You and Trauma

Your Soul's Psychology, You and Trauma

Have you thought of your soul’s psychology before? 

Me neither!  This chapter of The Seat of the Soul has got me thinking, like all other chapters. 

This is what google says about the word psychology…

·       the scientific study of the human mind and its functions, especially those affecting behavior in a given context

·       the mental characteristics or attitude of a person or group

·       the mental and emotional factors governing a situation or activity

All definitions are regarding the mind and body (behavior), none are regarding the soul.  Psychology is based on the perception of your personality not the soul. 

How can you heal yourself without regarding your soul?

You can’t.

Let’s go back to Carl Jung.  He talked about symbolism and the shadows.  When he talked about the shadows, he was talking about the parts of yourself that are well hidden from your awareness. 

When you go to a therapist, especially a therapist like myself, you’re going to be working on your shadows which means sheding light to those parts of you that are influencing your thoughts and behaviors that are not part of your awareness… just yet.

Take A Walk Inside Your Soul

Take A Walk Inside Your Soul

Does my dog have a soul? 

This is a question that I’ve been asked by many people during some of the spiritual workshops I’ve held in the past. 

I’ve always answered yes. 

Yes, because during some spiritual circles I’ve been to, the leader has channeled the spirit of some dogs.  And so, has Teresa Caputo, Lisa Williams and Tyler Henry.  Tyler Henry!  Isn’t he just an angel walking the earth?!  Such sweetness that kid.

Gary Zukav starts this chapter, Soul by talking about the animal kingdom and how the animal soul evolves.  They all evolve differently but the dolphin soul in particular caught my attention.

Are You Friends or Not?

Are You Friends or Not?

How do you know if your friends with your partner or not?  Being in any relationship is an interesting process, especially the one with your partner.  I see the struggles of many couples in my private practice.  They struggle to understand each other, respect each, and encourage each other.   These are aspects that if you really think about it, I know you have with your friends because I do too.  As a friend that’s what you do.

In couple-hood, not so much.

Why?  Why is it that the idea of friendship goes out the window once you start to share your life together?  In the book ‘Seat of the Soul’ by Gary Kuzav says that without a commitment to your partner, you can’t learn to see others as your soul sees them; as light.

3 Things You Need to Know About You, Trauma and Addiction

First thing first. 

You need to acknowledge that you HAVE an addiction. 

You ARE NOT the addiction.  Let me explain, people come to me and time and time again I hear, I’m an addict, I’m addicted to…, you have no idea what this addiction is doing to me, as if you were power.less. 

You’re Power.Full.

Don't make your addiction or your illness your identity.  I Am are two powerful words.  The third word that follows adds even more power.

You may feel powerless when you’re faced with the choice of do I eat that, do I do that, do I take that. 

It all comes down to a choice.  

Unfortunately, you have made that same choice so many times that it’s now a habit and a pattern.  Remember, a repetitive thought becomes a habit, a repetitive habit becomes a pattern.  A pattern that is not doing you any good needs to be broken so that you can stop doing things mindlessly.  Rewiring the brain to create new associations with food and behaviors is what you may need.

How are you choosing which part of you to listen to?

Choosing that part of you that makes the most sense to you can be a confusing process.  There are times when you may find yourself having to make a decision and you may start by wondering… part of me wants this.  Part of me wants to do that.  Part of me wants to not do anything.

As I continue to read The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav, he writes that as you engage in the process of choosing which of part of you, you want to listen to, that process will help you become more aware. 

In case you’re not aware, the more aware you become of what you do want, you become less aware of what you don’t want.  I see this to be true with the clients I work with.  Whenever I ask any one of my clients ‘What do you want?’ the client immediately responds with a list of what they don’t want.  ‘Tell me what you want, not what you don’t want’ I always say.  You see, whatever you focus on amplifies.  The more energy you give to what you want, the less energy goes to what you don’t want, and the little things become smaller.  Until you need to choose again.

Did You Know That Your Basic Emotional Spectrum Comes Down to Two Basic Emotions?

Ever wonder why anger, shame, resentment make you feel tired, drained and feeling really sad while love, joy and laughter leaves you feeling excited and energetic?  That’s because negative feelings have lower vibrations and positive feelings have higher vibrations.  Now, think about how you fight with your partner and how often. 

Your two basic emotions are love and fear.

Every intention stems from these two emotions.  When you get into it with your partner, it starts with the fear of... you can fill in the blank here which most likely you'll end up in a fight.  Or, it starts with the loving act of... fill in the blank here which hopefully you'll end up doing something really nice together... wink! wink!

How Do You Form Your Thoughts?

Hello Sweet Soul,

Let’s talk about the power of Intention Part 1.

I’m sure you’ve heard over and over again, everything is energy.  I know I have.  Here’s the thing, the way Zukav talks about it, is like… why didn’t I think of it that way!  He writes in a way that you can actually feel your brain burst and your consciousness expand!  For real hahaha!

You know me, I have to break it all down to bite-size so that I can take in all the wisdom. 

Check this out, everything is energy, and everything is light.  For example, all that is is light, energy.  We as a whole, you and I take in that light and form it into thoughts, into feelings, into behaviors.  Which is what I’ve been saying for like ever!  But you have filters.